Covering your online porn tracks

09/12/10 0 COMMENTS

Are your private Internet habits permanently burned into your hard
drive? Tom Weber on what your IT department knows about you—and
whether it’s possible to fully cover your tracks.

It’s been an eventful year in the annals of privacy, from the new
airport dilemma—digital strip search or physical pat-down?—to
WikiLeaks’ reminder that today’s supposedly private emails may be
tomorrow’s Internet fodder. The next possible frontier: your laptop.

Or more specifically, where you’ve surfed to on it? When the most
powerful government on earth can’t keep its interoffice memos
private, do your own secrets stand a chance?

Previously, The Daily Beast identified eight different groups of
people with the ability to pry into your private Web surfing, from
marketers who track your movements online to nosy neighbors snooping
into your WiFi network. (See The Porn Spies in Your Laptop.) But one
group intrigued us in particular: the office IT staffer or repair
technician who may wind up working on your computer. Can an average
person cover their tracks well enough to keep that guy on the
corporate help desk from finding out that they’ve been spending time
on, say, Are your habits safe from even that most
everyday of snooper?

To learn more, we decided to concoct a test. Specifically, even if
you’re scrupulously diligent about clearing the private data from
your laptop, can you mask the details of, say, visits to X-rated
sites? And if not, how long would it take a corporate IT technician to
uncover evidence of your naughty surfing?
Try yes—and a half-hour or so.

That’s right. Thirty minutes of poking around by a skilled geek who
gets their hands on your computer is more than enough to turn up what
turns you on—even if you think you’ve cleared off your computer.

This isn’t just an academic question. When we began talking to IT
staffers about data privacy, it was clear that they’ve seen it all.
While they generally don’t snoop on purpose (mainly because they
don’t have the time), users’ trails bubble up, such as when one
technician we spoke with asked to diagnose a slow laptop, found a hard
drive clogged with hardcore.

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So we decided to test this threat. First, we created the trail: We
gave a bemused volunteer a ThinkPad with a clean installation of
Windows XP, and told him to start surfing for porn—specifically,
every one of the top 50 adult sites ranked by—the mild
(, the wild (, a site that offers webcam
feeds with performers in all kinds of categories, from “grannies”
to women in uniforms) and everything in between. By clicking around
each site at random, our test laptop gobbled up X-rated photos and
videos along with “cookie” tracking files. In the course of the
test, our volunteer used three different browsers: Internet Explorer,
Firefox, and Chrome.

When we began talking to IT staffers about data privacy, it was clear
that they’ve seen it all.

Next, we attempted to hide it. Each of the browsers contains a
variation of the “Clear Recent History” command—for each of the
three, we faithfully executed the directions that promised to shield
our activities from prying eyes, including browsing history, download
history, cookies and temporary files (such as images on Web pages).

Finally, the hunt: We turned the laptop over to an experienced IT tech
on a corporate help desk, and asked him to search away. On his first
pass through the computer, our tech didn’t spot any dirty pictures
(or any other evidence of adult-site surfing).

But then he reached for a tool commonly used on help desks: a data-
recovery program designed to “undelete” missing files. Typically,
the recovery tools are brought into play when someone has accidentally
wiped out that quarterly spreadsheet from their PC and desperately
needs it back. In this case, though, our tech was using them to play

Bingo. Our tech swiftly discovered all sorts of tracks. For starters,
he recovered the cookie files we had cleared off—and with them,
evidence of visits to a number of pornographic sites. Then there were
the so-called temporary files—the images you see on Web pages—that
yielded porn aplenty. In about a half an hour, our help-desk
volunteer had fairly well retraced where we’d been. (In case
you’re curious—or keen to check up on someone else—there are
plenty of data-recovery tools available for consumers.)

For those looking to play defense, one IT pro recommends “data
shredders.” These programs use extreme methods to wipe out data on
your hard drive—thwarting data-recovery tools by writing new, random
data over the location of your cookies over and over until there’s no
trace of the incriminating information. Short of that, the best
strategy is knowledge: When it involves a computer, unlike a book or
television set, your reading and viewing habits follow you.

Thomas E. Weber covers technology for The Daily Beast. He is a former
bureau chief and columnist at The Wall Street Journal and was editor
of the award-winning Follow him on Twitter.

For inquiries, please contact The Daily Beast at

Mistress Eva: Yes, I know you look at porn! Just be careful and do not allow your wives, girlfriends and children to find it!


Female super-earners: Bad for marriage?

09/12/10 6 COMMENTS

Female super-earners: Bad for marriage?
In households where the woman makes more money, the man is more likely to cheat, have health problems, and be unhappy, according to a number of recent studies. Is that right?

Men were reportedly hit harder in the recession, forcing more women into family breadwinner roles.

America is in the midst of a “new marriage crisis,” says Danielle Friedman in The Daily Beast, as women are outpacing men in the workforce and upending long-held gender roles. In fact, women make more than men in one-third of American households, and experts say that neither gender is successfully handling this shift in earning power. Are female breadwinners inherently bad for marriage, or can couples work together to adjust to this new reality?

What’s so wrong with a woman earning more?
Despite significant societal changes, “there’s still a sense — on the part of both men and women — that men should be the providers,” says National Marriage Project director W. Bradford Wilcox, of the University of Virginia. “We’re facing a whole new social moment in which women are doing better than men are,” and men haven’t found “other outlets for masculinity.”

And the studies actually back that up?
They do give that impression. The National Marriage Project found that husbands are 61 percent less likely to say they are “very happy” in their marriage in families where the wife works more, and other studies show that male unemployment increases the odds of divorce, high-earning men in their 50s with higher-earning wives have more health problems, and men who earn less than their wives are more likely to cheat on them.

Why are women starting to earn more?
Because they can, or because they have to. Women are graduating from college in higher numbers than men and are taking less time off from their careers to rear children. At the same time, men were hit disproportionately hard in the recession, forcing women to assume the breadwinner role in families.

Is this just an American problem?
No, couples are dealing with the same issue in Europe, says Katrin Bennhold in The New York Times. The “small but growing number of women who out-earn their partners” in countries like France and Germany are “giving rise to an assortment of behavioral contortions aimed at keeping the appearance of traditional gender roles intact,” like low-earning men paying for dinner in public with their wives’ money.

What’s a successful woman to do?
Anke Domscheit-Berg, an executive at Microsoft Germany who says “success is not sexy,” advises women to find their mate in their 20s, before attaining career success, or couple up with artists and academics who don’t define their success in monetary terms. Why is this “always presented as the woman’s problem”? asks Laura Clawson in Daily Kos. Men who “can’t deal with your higher income” need to give up their sense of “male privilege.”

Any advice for couples with a female-breadwinner?
“Enjoy the cash,” for starters, says Linda Stern in Reuters. Give each partner some discretionary funds of his and her own, “be proud” because “the high-earning mom is smart and capable, the lower-earning dad is comfortable with himself, and they’re both modeling good stuff for their kids.” And above all, “get used to it.”

Is there a silver lining?
Marriage historian Stephanie Coontz is “cautiously optimistic” that the growing egalitarianism in marriages will be good for couples, says The Daily Beast’s Friedman. Marriages that feel like partnerships, whatever the division of labor, get the highest marks for quality, and couples in which the man helps out with chores and child-rearing have better sex lives. Maybe that last fact “will prove be a good jumping off point for future conversations.”

Sources: The Daily Beast, Reuters, Daily Kos, New York Times, Wall St. Journal

Mistress Eva: Times are changing and men need to handle their egos and insecurities better! The years of the man always being the bread winner is over! Women have gotten tired of being treated like second class citizens in the work force! That has fueled many women to work harder and get more degrees than men! Finally, its paying off for women! So now men have to show us that they are worthy in other ways than just a good provider! Can you clean, cook, and take care of the children? Can you orally please us for hours? I would ask if you are a good fuck but many of callers just have “clits”. So for many of you, could you be a good cuckold? Don’t worry I will let you still work. You can pay for my dates with my hung studs! 😉

Queen Elizabeth II’s Panties Go on Sale

08/12/10 0 COMMENTS

Here’s a surefire way to start cashing in on the royal nuptials: Put the queen’s undies up for sale.

If you’re in the market for some regal granny panties, celebrity gossip site TMZ reports that the estate of a deceased man in Florida is auctioning off a pair that once belonged to Queen Elizabeth II.

The bloomers, which are cream with a lace trim, belonged to Miami playboy “Baron” Joseph de Bicske Dobronyi (known to friends as Sepy), who passed away in June. He obtained the knickers through a friend after the queen supposedly left them on a private plane during a visit to Chile in 1968. It remains unclear whether HRH ever wore them, but given her penchant for recycled outfits, who’s to know?

The undies are expected to fetch a whopping $9,000, the same price that Queen Victoria’s supersized panties sold for in 2008, and the same auction house, Hansons Auctioneers and Valuers, is reported to be brokering the deal.

One thing’s for certain: This news will definitely have those royal knickers in a twist.

Mistress Eva: I know some of my Pervs would appreciate the value of the Queen’s Bloomers! Come on, aren’t you curious if they have been washed or not?

The Secret Life of Sperm

04/12/10 0 COMMENTS

We know where it comes from and what it does. But sperm is an amazing thing, with more secrets than most of us would have guessed.

And we’re not just talking trivia here (although these fast facts might help you win a bar bet or two…) But upping your sperm IQ can help you to protect your health and your reproductive interests. And, who knows, you just might impress your partner with your sperm know-how.

Dr. David Shin, the Chief at the Center for Sexual Health & Fertility in the Department of Urology at the Hackensack University Medical Center in New Jersey, offers up 13 facts about the little swimmers that may surprise you.

1. Sperm are produced in the testes and take 10 weeks to mature.

2. Mature sperm can wait up to two weeks in a holding area called the epididymis before they make their debut. The epididymis is a storage reservoir for sperm. It is an organ that sits on top of the testicle.

3. Sperm only contribute 5 percent of the total semen volume. The rest is comprised of fluids, which provide nutrients and protective medium for the sperm as it travels through the female reproductive tract.

4. Healthy men make 70-150 million sperm a day.

5. Sperm can live up to five days in a woman’s uterus, which explains why women can get pregnant over several days each month based on when she ovulates.

6. The Y sperm, which are sperm that makes males, swim faster than X sperm, which are sperm that makes females. The Y chromosome is smaller and has less genetic material compared to the X chromosome, so the Y carrying sperm can swim faster because it has less weight to transport compared to the X carrying sperm.

7. Human sperm measures 55 microns (micrometers or one millionth of a meter)
long. The average width of a human hair is 100 microns.

8. Sperm is derived from the Greek word sperma meaning “seed.”

9. Sperm can only swim forward and not backwards.

10. Normal sperm have a head, mid-piece and a tail. Abnormal sperm can have two
heads or two tails.

11. In the United States, sperm counts (which refer to the number of sperm present per milliliter of semen at the time of any given ejaculation) are the highest in New York. This is according to a study published in the journal “Fertility and Sterility,” although researchers have no idea why. They do know that men in New York have 50 percent higher sperm counts than men in Los Angeles.

12. Extended time in hot tubs or saunas can decrease a man’s sperm count, as heat adversely affects sperm production.

13. Lubricants, lotions and saliva all result in decreased sperm motility. In a study published in “Fertility and Sterility,” researchers noted that many lubricants tended to be ‘toxic’ to sperm, despite labeling. The researchers found it was the ingredients in the lubricants, such as glycerin, and that the slight acidity created poor conditions for sperm.

According to the Mayo Clinic’s website, giving sperm a leg up can be achieved through:

* Taking a multi-vitamin daily
* Eating plenty of fruits and vegetables
* Reducing stress
* Getting regular exercise
* Watching your weight
* Steering clear of toxins, tobacco use and illicit drugs
* Limiting alcohol

In other words, having a healthy body can help one to have healthy sperm. And, ladies, you want your man to have healthy sperm if you’re trying to get pregnant, which is a lot less precarious a feat than many think.

“Human reproduction is surprisingly inefficient and quite complex,” said Dr. Alicia Stanton, an OB-GYN based in Glastonbury, Conn.

Even fertile couples having unprotected sex only have a 25 percent chance of getting pregnant, according to Stanton.

Why you ask? Well, because sperm have a long journey to accomplish and the majority of the little guys simply are not up to it.

The average sperm travels about 1-4 millimeters per minute, which would make the 175mm trip to the egg in the fallopian tube take between 45 minutes to almost 3 hours.

“It can take up to three days before a sperm reaches the egg,” Shin added.

“Of all the sperm ejaculated, only 25-50 percent is actually moving forward well,” Stanton explained.

Add to that the fact that at the young age of 25 the quality of a man’s sperm begins to decline, it truly is a miracle that any of them ever reach the finish line.

Sperm are amazing. But they are only as good as the body who produces and takes care of them. So, you can use these tidbits to help you with your next game of Trivial Pursuit or maybe if you get the phone call from “Who Wants to Be a Millionaire.”

But, you’d be better served to use it to inspire you to find out more about all things sex. As the old saying goes, knowledge is power.

Jenny Block is a freelance writer based in Dallas. She is the author of “Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage.” Her work appears in “One Big Happy Family,” edited by Rebecca Walker and “It’s a Girl: Women Writers on Raising Daughters,” edited by Andrea Buchanan. Visit her website at or check out her blog at

Happy Thanksgiving!

25/11/10 0 COMMENTS

I want to personally wish you and yours a safe, warm, and delicious Thanksgiving!

If you know anything about me, you know I do not cook!
(That is what my slaves and sissies are for!)
Luckily, my Mother is a very talented Southern cook so I will be dining with my family. My dear Mother prefers if I stay out of the Kitchen (Because I am usually in the way or distracting her!) So I enjoy cutting the Holiday birds and setting up the dining area.

I have one older Sister. She is married with three sons. (Yes!, the pressure is off of me!) We are pretty close. We always have to be careful about keeping our secrets, secret at family events.

We all live 20 minutes away from each other. This does make me being kinky so much more interesting. Especially when I was doing intense breathplay with a exboyfriend and my Mother knockss on the door. I went on the front porch in a robe and kept her occupied while my sub hid in my bedroom. Which would be great except for the rope still hanging from the exposed beams in the ceiling. :sigh!:

Well as you can about guess, I am pretty out to my Mom at this point. She’s even seen my Playroom.

All she could say was that she hated my black leather Curtains! I think she was still in shock!

We are not your typical family but at least there is love.

Happy Thanksgiving!
Mistress Eva

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