Measuring Up: How Our Culture’s Obsession With Porn-Sized Penises Hurts Men

30/06/11 2 COMMENTS

Measuring Up: How Our Culture’s Obsession With Porn-Sized Penises Hurts Men
By Rachel Rabbit White, AlterNet
Posted on June 22, 2011, Printed on June 28, 2011

In 2008, New York Magazine reported on a small group of men sitting in a bleak room on 13th street, commiserating, offering support, and trying to come up with something other than “small penis” to describe their “affliction”:

“We’ve been throwing around other names,” says John Miller, a stocky man with a therapeutic manner. “People have suggested firecracker or sparkplug as words with positive connotations.”

While New York Magazine ostensibly covered this “Small Penis Support Group” as an esoteric joke, the sentiment behind the group isn’t so rare. A small penis support forum,, boasts over 10,000 members. A user named “Nubdick” sums up the movement: “I’ve been ridiculed and made fun of by women so much that I’ve pretty much given up. It doesn’t help that the media is constantly barraging us with ‘Size DOES matter’ — from music to TV shows and movies, even advertising.”

Then there’s a porn-world where every man is over 8 inches. In the phenomenon of monster-cock porn, in which guys (wearing realistic sheaths) give the illusion that a penis can rest on your heart. And let’s not forget the e-mail spam that tells my vacant hotmail account, “Rachel, she knows you aren’t big enough.” Or the rigid male gender roles that prize stoicism, that discourage talk of emotions or inadequacies.

In small penis support groups, there are a number of men who aren’t actually small but just feel like they are. And time and time again on the forums, standard sized men say they are going under the knife for penis enlargement surgery–a practice that is described as “experimental at best” by the American Urology Association. A study by researchers at St. Peter’s Andrology Center and Institute of Urology in London followed 42 men undergoing this procedure. Researchers found that most of them had “normal” sized penises–and after the procedure, only 35 percent were satisfied with the results.

American culture sends a message about the penis that is confused, at best. In the wake of Rep. Anthony Weiner’s dick-pic scandal, the theme that “wangs are ugly” spattered the Internet, the media (wrongly) assuming that’s just how most women feel. The Washington Post even ran a sweeping op-ed in which writer Monica Hesse mused, all too predictably: “How about a picture of you, sweaty, cleaning out the storm drain? So sexy!” And before all this, the first big laugh in this summer’s blockbuster Bridesmaids comes from the two main characters joking that penises are ugly and look angry.

So it seems like in American mainstream culture, “wangs are ugly,” but unlike the Greeks who dealt with penis anxiety by preferring petite genitals, we want ours super-sized anyway. Last year, a “kiss and tell all” account of how Mike “the Situation” Sorrentino had a “small penis” was passed around the Internet with zeal. Penis shaming, it seems, is culturally acceptable. Our mash-up mantra seems to be: wangs are ugly but we, as the ’90s club-hit chimes, “don’t want no short dick man.”

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Vibrators “okay,” according to TSA

20/06/11 3 COMMENTS

by McLean Robbins (RSS feed) on Jun 20th 2011 at 3:00PM

According to an article that ran in the San Francisco Chronicle over the weekend, your special friend is a-okay to pack in your carry-on luggage.

“The Transportation Safety Administration, whose job it is to consider fully such matters, has decreed that vibrators are OK. The TSA says whips, chains, leashes, restraints and manacles are OK, too.” the article states.

That’s the crux of it. But the article goes on to discuss the issue of whether or not you should carry your vibrator onto the plane. Are you a nervous traveler already? Prone to looking shifty in line? Yep, you’re going to get flagged. And when you’re flagged, you’re inspected.

Our favorite quote?

“They sell vibrators at Walgreens,” said Good Vibrations salesman Mike Korcek. “You can’t get more mainstream than that. Remember, vibrators have been around longer than airplanes.”

Size Matters

Be careful of the above statements being taken at face value. While vibrating devices themselves are allowed, they are still subject to the same stipulations as other carry-on luggage. This applies to objects that are “club-like,” which the article refers to as “anatomically correct cylinders of roughly a foot or so in length.”

Nico Melendez, a TSA spokesperson, reminds us of the prohibition against carrying on items such as “billy clubs, black jacks, brass knuckles, nunchakus and martial arts weapons.”

Generally speaking, you’re safe with anything under seven inches in length.

Thank you, Chronicle, for this gem. “In other words, according to the TSA, size matters.”

Travel Tips

Don’t want to get caught? Follow these tips:
Remove the batteries. It will prevent your travel companion from going off unexpectedly and in inopportune places – like the security line and overhead bin.
Make sure all liquids and gels are 3-1-1 compliant. You may want to transfer that KY into an unmarked container as well.
Handcuffs are legally allowed, but you may want to check them … or opt for a less conspicuous silk or cotton variety.
Whips and leather floggers are legal. Do not back down, says Carol Queen, owner of the Good Vibrations website. She suggests that a simple “that’s my whip” should suffice.
Be careful where you are traveling – foreign countries may have different restrictions.In Saudi Arabia, the article notes, alcohol, weapons, pork and pornography are not permitted.
We leave you on this note from the Chronicle: “Sometimes after a hard flight,” said Queen, “what a woman really needs to do is go to the hotel and plug in.”

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13/06/11 0 COMMENTS

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