A Study in the Obvious! Effects of penis size in gay community

20/07/11 0 COMMENTS

From: “Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom eNews”
Date: July 19, 2011 7:14:38 AM EDT
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Subject: [wff-newslist] NIH-backed study examined effects of penis size in gay community
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NIH-Backed Study Examined Effects of Penis Size in Gay Community

By Judson Berger

Published July 18, 2011 | FoxNews.com

The federal government helped fund a study that examined what effect a gay man’s penis size has on his sex life and general well-being.

The study was among several backed by the National Institutes of Health that have come under scrutiny from a group claiming the agency is wasting valuable tax dollars at a time when the country is trying to control its debt. This particular research resulted in a 2009 report titled, “The Association Between Penis Size and Sexual Health Among Men Who Have Sex with Men.”

The study reported, among its findings, that gay men with “below average penises” were more likely to assume a “bottom” sexual position, while those with “above average penises” were more likely to assume a “top” sexual position. Those with average penises identified themselves as “versatile” in the bedroom.

Though it’s difficult to trace exactly how much federal funding went to the project, the study was one of many linked to an $899,769 grant in 2006. The grant was administered by NIH’s National Institute on Drug Abuse, and went first to a group called Public Health Solutions and a researcher with the National Development and Research Institutes before going to individual researchers.

Those researchers then compiled data from a survey of more than 1,000 gay and bisexual men at events in New York City for the gay community.

“This country is broke and we cannot spend money on this kind of stuff,” said Andrea Lafferty, president of the Traditional Values Coalition, which drew attention to the report as part of a six-month investigation into NIH grants for examples of “institutional waste.”

“We’re spending money on wacky stuff,” Lafferty said.

But one of the researchers involved with the report told FoxNews.com that NIH funding was only used to help “analyze and write up” data that had already been collected without the use of taxpayer funds.

“The data were not collected using taxpayer funds,” Jeffrey Parsons, a professor with Hunter College, said in an email. “NIH funds were not used to measure anyone’s penis size.”

He said part of the 2006 grant went toward the primary author’s post-survey analysis as part of his postdoctoral fellowship to “better inform sexual health promotion efforts.”

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I personally hate when huge amounts of money are used to fund the study of the obvious. This is one of those cases. I am a Bi-Sexual Female and I even knew this! Look, penis sizes matters no matter what your sexual orientation is. It just does. If my girlfriend is going to fuck me with a strap on, do you think I would want 5 inches or 10 inches? You’re damn right! Ten inches baby! When I am using a strapon on a newbie, I go small and work him up to a 10 incher! Why? Because it feels good that way! Yes, big cocks look more powerful too! Plus they usually ejaculate more too. There is something down right primal about it. So let’s just say it, “SIZE DOES MATTER!”

Mistress Eva

Are Men What They Used to Be?

20/07/11 1 COMMENTS

Dr. Peggy Drexler. Author, ‘Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family’

Every study, it seems, brings another assault on the masculinity of the American man.

As I read about how men are thinking more like women, and women are filling the space vacated by declining masculinity, I have to wonder: Is it a shift in gender roles, or an easing of expectations?

In other words are we seeing men and women as they always were, but were never allowed to be?

Those in the men-are-the-new-women camp point to what they see as troubling evidence. Early this year there was much buzz in the halls of gender behavior when a study of 5,000 American adults found that more men are interested in attachment and commitment, while more women wanted to preserve some of their independence in a relationship.

There were other findings that sounded alarms about the manliness of men. Half of single men 21 to 35 wanted kids, where for women in that age group, the number was 46 percent — not exactly a statistical landslide, but apparently troubling none-the-less.

Adding circumstantial evidence of de-masculation is the growth of men’s cosmetics, waxing, and fashion. Now this: SPANX, a company founded to fight panty lines, tummy bulge and bra fat — reports that one of their hottest new products last year was SPANX for men.

There is more. But across all of it, interpretations range from interested observation to predictions of the matriarchical decline experienced by civilizations past. But at the core: there is the fear that America is becoming a less manly place. I heard nothing, for example, about the hard-nosed warriors in the U.S. women’s soccer team that spoke to bad things happening to females.

But as we pine for the macho man and alpha male, let’s also look at some additional evidence of the changing American man.

Dr. Warren Farrell, the author of the book Father and Child Reunion, points to the growing desire of dads to be a bigger part of their children’s lives. This new paternal involvement, he writes, “is to the twenty-first century what women’s desire to be in the workplace was to the twentieth century.”

A 2007 survey by the employment website Monster.com found that 70 percent of fathers would consider being a stay at home parent if money were no object. Almost 50 percent of dads of school aged children took paternity leave when their employer offered it.

The evidence is also accumulating in smaller increments. Men are free to hug more, they help with homework, they listen more, and — especially with daughters — are part of their lives in ways long denied to fathers of earlier generations. Is it feminization that has brought fathers so far from the distant, silent providers of the past?

Pick any organization, and you’ll find awareness, backed by shifts in culture, that the days of the my-way-or-the-highway manager are past. Is it feminization to realize that leadership by brute force of title must be replaced by the so-called “soft skills” of communication, cooperation and engagement?

While some wail over the declining state of manhood implied by the statistics, there is also the very real possibility that men are evolving from swaggering through life in some cartoon interpretation of what men are supposed to be — to becoming more fully-formed human beings free to find out what they can be.

So here is the question: are men less masculine, or more liberated? Are they being feminized, or humanized?


So are men becoming more sensitive, humanized or feminized? Every man has his own story. I will not lump all men into one happy package. What I can comment on is how many requests I* get for Feminization Sessions. I have certainly seen a increased interest in Feminization. Also the Bulk of the callers I get on Niteflirt are into Feminization, Cuckolding and Small Penis Humiliation. I find that many men are realizing that they do not want to be the sterotypical “real man” anymore. Many men I talk to would rather Worship a Strong Dominant Woman.

I do not know if this makes them weaker or maybe in fact stronger and more couragous. It takes balls to go against the customs and peer pressure of modern society. It takes strength to be emotionally available.

So what do you think?

Mistress Eva

Why do women fake orgasms? New research reveals some surprising reasons

17/07/11 1 COMMENTS

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Date: July 15, 2011 8:21:33 AM EDT
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Subject: [wff-newslist] Why do women fake orgasms? New research reveals some surprising reasons
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Why Do Women Fake Orgasms? New Research Reveals Some Surprising Reasons
By Liz Langley, AlterNet
Posted on July 5, 2011, Printed on July 13, 2011

I think I was about 11 years old when I asked my mother what an orgasm was. I remember her saying “I don’t know.”

Not to impugn anyone with whom my mother was intimately acquainted but I can’t be sure she was lying. It could have been the “I-don’t-want-to-explain-this,” variety of lie, or the “Ambushed! Play dumb!” variety or it could have been true. For all the sex scandals we’ve seen we should know by now never to assume jack about anyone’s private life.

I had asked because orgasms were everywhere, except, I guess, in people’s bedrooms. They were on book covers and TV talk shows and it seemed that this was a once-private subject, the sudden public discussion of which was making some people upset and uncomfortable, so naturally I wanted to know more. I don’t remember if my mom ever addressed the subject again but I cobbled together, with the help of various media, a half-assed idea of what an orgasm was, or at least how it sounded and naturally heard about women faking it, though not fully understanding what, I didn’t fully understand why.

One researcher has finally taken that question to academia.

Erin Cooper, a doctoral student at Temple University conducted research on women faking orgasm, which men do, too (statistics vary pretty wildly on the percentage, but whatever stats you read women’s numbers are higher) Her initial survey of 1500 women, written up by Sadie F. Dingfelder on the American Psychological Association website said that of the conscious reasons heterosexual women fake it the most common is “altruistic deceit” – in other words, avoiding hurting the guy’s feelings.

But a story by Live Science on a smaller survey of 366 women said of women who “endorse” faking it they do so for various reasons, including their own feelings of sexual insecurity, to avoid intimacy or “to get it over with,” and that for some it increased, rather than decreased, their sexual satisfaction. In an email Erin said that the smaller study “looked at fear of intimacy as a predictor of motivation for faking orgasm. So women who had difficulty in a past relationship are more likely to fake in order to avoid feeling insecure about themselves or to end the sexual encounter.”

First let’s look at the two reasons for faking it that are super easy to understand.

“Getting it over with” is a no-brainer. As fun as sex is – in fact the more fun it is – it makes you tired. Done.

Protecting the man’s ego is understandable too. Erin says that this wasn’t found to be associated with increased intimacy, but she does see it as a “relationship maintenance strategy” and I’m sure that she’s not only right but that sexual relationships are not the only sort we maintain with it. In fact, “altruistic deceit” is probably the greatest motivator ofalllittle white lies (You look great, by the way. Have you lost weight?). In fact, I think the male version of ‘faking it’ is saying “I’ll call you!” after an encounter, when they probably did not really feel quite what those sounds project.

As for faking it being some women’s way of salvaging their own egos that might sound surprising but it’s really pretty easily explained. If your sexual ego doesn’t want to let you admit to awkwardness, discomfort with your body or that you don’t know what makes you climax, well, you could easily fake it, the way people often fake being happy or knowing the story of Paul Revere. The problem is that a really well-constructed facade means they may never getreallywell-informed or find what makes them happy…or sexually satisfied.

Susan Crain Bakos, a veteran sex writer of over 25 years, author ofDaily Sex Bible: Inspirations and Techniques for the Best Year of Sex Everinventor of The Orgasm Loop,” says that faking it out of insecurity is often the case.

“It’s about keeping up and image of their own and wanting to be seen as this hot number who’s really sexual and always have an orgasm,” she says.
Hook up culture isn’t helping.

“Hook up sex is mostly drunken sex and you don’t get orgasms when you’re drunk,” becsuse alcohol deadens the nerve endings.

“They might have looked really hot but if they were really drunk and they didn’t come…there’s nothing hot about that! You might as well be wife of 30 years who doesn’t come in her quick encounter with her husband. (The hook-up girl) is wearing a hot dress and not coming. What’s the difference?”

Susan has some advice to remedy this (aside from not getting too tipsy). “I tell the young women if you want to go out and get laid you have your little bag, you have your condoms, your individual lube packets, a vibrator, something small and discreet and a vibrating cock ring for him. If you’re going to do this, do it right. Get an orgasm.”

And men want women to have real orgasms.
“If women only realized how much it might free them a little bit, make them more willing to tell a man what they want or relax into sexuality,” Susan says. The men who write to her for advice “are very focused on ‘How can I please her? How can I get better for her?” and the AMA story corroborates this: 90% of men, it says, care if women to have orgasms.

And their desire to please may be evolutionary important to them, just as faking it might be to women.

The AMA story quotes William McKibbin, PhD, a psychology professor at the University of Michigan, Flint. as saying there’s preliminary evidence that “the female orgasm functions to selectively uptake a particular man’s sperm over another,” so, evolutionarily speaking, it’s better for him if he takes her there. Elisabeth Lloyd, PhD science historian at Indiana University, Bloomington, on the other hand, thinks it’s just a “fantastic bonus,” with no clear function. On the statistic that only 8% of women have orgasms through penile-vagina intercourse (without any helping hands), Lloyd also notes “Very few women can climax through intercourse alone, but in Hollywood, that 8 percent (of women) is portrayed as 100 percent.” Well-said,

Full article at: http://www.alternet.org/story/151529/why_do_women_fake_orgasms_new_research_reveals_some_surprising_reasons?akid=7222.41174.HEi-bZ&rd=1&t=5
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OK, I am going to tell you straight. Women fake because they do not want to hurt your feelings. Honestly, you are not getting us off. I cannot feel your cock and I wanting to get it over with!

But honestly, when I find out a guy has a small cock, I usually blow him off. If he is persistant, I will turn him into a sissy and or cuckold. Its that simple.

Mistress Eva

I have some new Toys and Cage!

08/07/11 0 COMMENTS

My Leg slave david has spoiled me!

I have a PES Electrical Power Box already. Yesterday I got:






I also have a Violet Wand on the way!

We also back ordered some Toys just for David!

I also got a cage!


So many new things to explore with me! I love to be spoiled!